Not too long ago my ex dumped me. It was a pull-the-rug-out-from-under-your-feet-slam-your-face-into-the-wall kind of dumping. Now don't get me wrong, we've all been dumped before and I'm not asking you to whip out the mini violins and play me a depressing aria ... I am merely preparing you for what follows.
This particular ex is one that I thought I was going to marry. I thought he was my one and only, my lobster, my perfect catch, kindred spirit, my partner. I thought I was done with the dating game, but that was not the case.
Throughout our relationship and during the breakup I found that I identified with many songs that helped support the euphoria or ease the pain. Now that I am post breakup, with occasional wallowing, I am identifying with a whole new set of songs.
The incomparable Meghan Trainor released a new single not to long ago entitled Dear Future Husband. It is a catchy tune that is spot on to what much of the single, female population of the world experiences. Her song is written/sung as a letter to her future husband explaining the many things that he will need to know to make the relationship a success! This song should be a prerequisite for all relationships from this moment forward. You want to date me? Sweet, listen to this song. If you agree, we are golden. If not, hit the road Jack.
So I thought to myself ... if I could write a letter to my future mate, what would I want to say exactly? What would be the most important things to include to ensure a successful and happy marriage? At the risk of not boring you to pieces I have written out only my first five points that I would include in my letter to a future husband.
Dear Future Husband ...
-It is okay to have varied interests. We don't need to do everything together 100% of the time. Go out, be with your guy friends and own it.
-Alone time is good. It is healthy even. Embrace it and revel in it, once the kids come alone time will most likely be few and far between.
-Compromise. Life isn't a one way street. Traffic is going to be coming from all directions and you must do your best to work together to navigate the streets but at some point you are going to need to turn right on red.
-Chivalry isn't dead. I am a modern woman and yes, I can open the door myself, but please do it for me every once in awhile. It makes me feel special.
-Apologize and that goes for me too. It is okay to be wrong but man up and apologize.
What would be yours?
This particular ex is one that I thought I was going to marry. I thought he was my one and only, my lobster, my perfect catch, kindred spirit, my partner. I thought I was done with the dating game, but that was not the case.
Throughout our relationship and during the breakup I found that I identified with many songs that helped support the euphoria or ease the pain. Now that I am post breakup, with occasional wallowing, I am identifying with a whole new set of songs.
The incomparable Meghan Trainor released a new single not to long ago entitled Dear Future Husband. It is a catchy tune that is spot on to what much of the single, female population of the world experiences. Her song is written/sung as a letter to her future husband explaining the many things that he will need to know to make the relationship a success! This song should be a prerequisite for all relationships from this moment forward. You want to date me? Sweet, listen to this song. If you agree, we are golden. If not, hit the road Jack.
So I thought to myself ... if I could write a letter to my future mate, what would I want to say exactly? What would be the most important things to include to ensure a successful and happy marriage? At the risk of not boring you to pieces I have written out only my first five points that I would include in my letter to a future husband.
Dear Future Husband ...
-It is okay to have varied interests. We don't need to do everything together 100% of the time. Go out, be with your guy friends and own it.
-Alone time is good. It is healthy even. Embrace it and revel in it, once the kids come alone time will most likely be few and far between.
-Compromise. Life isn't a one way street. Traffic is going to be coming from all directions and you must do your best to work together to navigate the streets but at some point you are going to need to turn right on red.
-Chivalry isn't dead. I am a modern woman and yes, I can open the door myself, but please do it for me every once in awhile. It makes me feel special.
-Apologize and that goes for me too. It is okay to be wrong but man up and apologize.
What would be yours?
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